It was a thought of wishing I had taught my older children some of the lessons I am just now learning in this season of my life. I’m not a fan of staying mired in regrets (although I am a fan of taking personal responsibility and seeking forgiveness where needed). It’s also comforting to realize that I still have the opportunity to teach and mentor in the years ahead, so it’s not hopeless by any means.
It’s just that, like all parents, I want to equip them for life with all the healthy attitudes and thought patterns that I can.
Another son recently faced a difficult challenge physically and mentally during some training. I was so grateful to be able to share with him what I’ve been learning (which is motivation for any parent to continue on their own personal development journey). Here are a few of those lessons:
You move towards what you think about.
Therefore, focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
Unsuccessful, unhappy people think and talk about what they don’t want most of the time. (Brian Tracy) Therefore, successful people think and talk about what they DO want most of the time.
Instead of thinking “this is hard,” think “this is a challenge, but I’m up for it.” Notice what a difference it makes in your energy and emotions.
It was gratifying to hear the change in his voice and attitude as we talked and analyzed his situation. A few years ago I would have reacted differently and given different advice. Maybe some sympathy and worry, with a bit of whining on top.
It is amazing how our own personal growth and thoughts and character affect those around us. Especially as mothers, we affect the temperature of the home. We are the thermostat, the controller of warmth or coolness, and the keeper of the atmosphere. It is no small matter if we choose to be controlled by emotions and think that the world revolves around our hormones.
Fortunately, we don’t have to be perfect. When we realize we need to do some relationship repair or refocus our energy and thoughts and parental advice in the right direction, a conversation over chips and salsa could do the trick.