Balancing Evening Activities and Family Time

Sometimes we find ourselves with too many evening activities and not enough quiet evenings at home. The kids get in bed later and later, and it starts to pull everyone into a vortex of exhaustion and fast-food dinners on the run. There are seasons when it can’t be helped: sports and performance practices, dress rehearsals, concerts, church services….and the list goes on. But at some point, especially when we have young children at home, the realization hits and we know it’s time to find a way of balancing evening activities and family time.

Since every family and situation is different, there’s no one-size-fits-all solution. This short video offers food for thought on how to make choices when you realize that something needs to change:

The keys are 1) awareness and 2) deciding what you want your family life to look like. If you become aware that an evening obligation is negatively affecting your family, then you get to decide if it’s worth it.

Relief could be as simple as saying “No” or making a few tweaks to your schedule. Sometimes the “good” prevents the “best” for your family.

Husbands often have the best perspective on this because they see how it affects YOU. Of course the opposite can also be true, as a husband might not be aware of the turmoil and exhaustion his wife is feeling with the current schedule. Take time for respectful communication when things are out of balance.

In the end, you choose the family life you’re creating during the years when kids are growing up at home. Make sure those years don’t pass you by with constant evening activities keeping you away from home the majority of the time.

One last thought: sometimes evening activities ARE the stuff of the family life that you want. Just make sure it really IS what YOU want and not what is expected by society. You get one chance at these years, so make thoughtful decisions about balancing evening activities and family time.

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