Most of you know that a few months ago I decided to take a break from blogging and writing a newsletter due to the reality of a happy and busy life.
But lately I’ve realized that I miss blogging and really miss helping and encouraging people. I’ve missed connecting with the readers of This Lovely Place. It has begun to feel a little forlorn and lonely around the blog.
On the other hand, it’s not quite time to jump back in with both feet. My reason for a blogging break still stands: I don’t want to miss our son’s senior year or put off my family’s needs or our school at home. I don’t want to look up and realize that I neglected the seasonal rhythms of home life and being present for my family because I’m too busy.
The blog was started solely for T-Tapp, with infrequent, short little blogs about my T-Tapp experience of losing 100 pounds and nine sizes. Eventually a separate website called This Lovely Place was created with articles about family and making a home. A year ago the two sites were merged into one and that in itself was a relief!
During this break I’ve realized that the reason I started with T-Tapp (aside from the fact that it changed my life!) was that I didn’t feel worthy of writing about anything else. For years I told myself that “someday” I would write a book but I just didn’t have anything to say yet. Note to self: Don’t tell yourself stuff like that. It wears pathways in your brain that take time and effort to smooth out and replace.
Eventually, writing for This Lovely Place seemed difficult because there are so many mommy bloggers doing a much better job of it than me. I’m not fishing for compliments, so please don’t write and say “Oh, I love your blog!” because I know that many of you do and I’m grateful! I just know that I’m not a photographer or a graphic designer or blog guru, I’m not a food blogger and I’m not a parenting expert.
But something I’ve done all of my life is to share what works for me. I can’t help it–it’s in my DNA! When I find something or do something or use something and it works for me, it bubbles up out of me. I want to tell someone so they can decide if it will work for them. I’m not offended if it doesn’t. I wouldn’t dream of going around forcing people to agree with me or criticizing the choices of others and I don’t appreciate it when people do that to me.
In fact, I’ve spent a lot of my life staying in the box that others put me in. Someone I deeply admire and respect recently observed that whenever I peek out of my box or step out of it, if someone slaps me down I jump back in the box. In other words, if someone criticizes me or disagrees in an unkind way, I tend to want to retreat and be invisible.
The trouble with the box is that while I stay in it, I don’t ever be Me. Long experience with rejection told me the lie that if people really get to know me, they won’t like me. Fortunately the wounds from that lie are healing as I soak in the fathoms-deep love of God for me.
Now don’t worry, I’m not going to get weird on you or have a mid-life crisis. I absolutely love my husband and wonderful family. I’m still a dedicated homeschooling mama and work-at-home Mom.
I just happen to also be a T-Tapp Master Trainer and a consultant and coach for an awesome Social Media company. I offer products like Plexus to people because they have worked great for me. I’m absolutely passionate about the study of the mind and heart, about how our thoughts and attitude affect us, and about how we can best manage our busy lives. I love all things T-Tapp. I’ve eaten a lot of Trim Healthy Mama recipes and love it. But I also love other kinds of recipes and don’t think I’ll ever know The One True Way to Eat for Health and Weight Loss and Everything Else (and don’t want to obsess over food that much, anyway).
I’ve spent many years in study and practice to make a homey home, love my husband, teach my kids, change my toxic thinking and manage my busy life. It would be pretty sad to shrink and keep it all to myself, and I think that’s why I’ve been feeling the disconnect.
I may not be a photographer or foodie, but I can definitely share life lessons and what I’m excited about and what has worked for me. That’s pretty much what I’ve been doing all along, I’m just giving myself permission to stop apologizing for it and wishing I was doing it like somebody else!
So there you have it. I pledge to be more Me on my blog and in my newsletter. I’ve come a long way in that direction over the years anyway. I’m just throwing it out there as a challenge to myself and a love offering to you. I want to be authentic and to encourage each of you on your own personal life journey.
The blog/newsletter will return on a regular basis, but just once a week. I’m thinking Tuesday is a nice day. It doesn’t fit what the internet marketers and researchers say, but it feels right to me. Sometimes I will probably even miss an issue but This Lovely Place readers are a very gracious group.
Most of the time there will be a main blog article plus an additional short tip in the newsletter, but it will stay simple. I want to keep it doable for me and readable for you.
Thank you for your patience as I’ve continued to grow and figure things out. I hope you’re doing the same in your life. I’m grateful for growth and change, and I want to keep learning from mistakes and embracing wisdom.
Welcome back, dear readers!