“You’re going to drop that.” “You’re always late.” “You never notice how I look.” “Your room is always a mess.” “You never have time for me.”
[break][/break]Have words like these escaped your lips lately?
[break][/break]Yes, you’re busy. In the stress of the moment, in trying to get several things done at once, you might voice your frustration to your husband and children. The frustration (and the words) started in your head. And you’re speaking those things over your loved ones.
[break][/break]What happens when we hear words like these? Let’s say someone says to you, “You did a terrible job cleaning the kitchen. Here, wipe off the cabinet. Put that bag of chips away. Why didn’t you clean off the stovetop?”
[break][/break]Does this make you want to get right to work and do an excellent job cleaning the kitchen?
[break][/break]Instead you’re likely to feel resentful or angry. You might do the work, but probably not with enthusiasm. Being asked a “why didn’t you” question usually makes you feel defensive.
[break][/break]Rewind. You did a rotten job on kitchen, it’s true, but someone approached you like this: “Hey, you’ve really been working in here. I’ll put the chips away while you wipe off the cabinet. After you clean off the stovetop this kitchen is going to shine. Thanks for helping!”
[break][/break]Those simple words would have an entirely different effect. You might even do a few extras to make sure the kitchen looked great.
[break][/break]What if we expected the best from people and spoke to them accordingly? Especially those in our home?
[break][/break]What if we treated people better then they deserve? That’s the definition of mercy.
[break][/break]Most of the time people will unconsciously try to live up to expectations.
[break][/break]There was a wife who started saying to her husband when he was irritable and angry, “Oh, honey, that’s not like you to get angry. You’re usually so patient. You must be tired.” Within a short time her usually bad-tempered husband changed. He lived up to her expectations.
[break][/break]To think the best of your husband could change how you treat him, and that could very well change him. As wives, we have so much power in our husband’s lives it’s almost scary.
[break][/break]Instead of assuming that he meant to neglect you, assume that he’s busy and try to think how to encourage him.
[break][/break]Instead of being aggravated that “he only wants one thing,” (and thinking those thoughts with a martyr’s sigh), choose to anticipate and participate like you did when you were a newlywed.
[break][/break]Instead of saying negative, irritated words to your family, change your thoughts and then speak life-giving words to them.
[break][/break]Instead of accusing words like “You never” and “You always,” speak hope-filled words like “Thanks so much” and “I appreciate that.” It will change the atmosphere in your home. It could change their behavior. And it might even change you.
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