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Please Don’t Follow Too Close

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This week our youngest girls began their first homeschool co-op experience (and it was awesome). On the first day of classes I walked the girls through the crowd to find their classrooms and met a few new moms, some of whom told me that they had heard me speak or they read the blog. It made me want to wince and say “For goodness’ sake, don’t follow me too closely. I’m still learning all this stuff just like you.” For real.

Each of us has to find our own way. It’s okay if your way is different from mine. Get a few tips from me, feel what speaks to your heart, and move on. Be careful who you allow to speak into your life. If you walk away feeling judged and hopeless, they’re not speaking life. Don’t read blogs or Social Media accounts that induce a feeling of “less than.” Everybody puts their best edited version on Pinterest and Instagram, with a soft filter to blur the reality.

Weed out the ones that contribute to discontent. Maybe in a few months you’ll be able to follow them with a different perspective and it won’t be a problem. Meanwhile you have to live in your today, so throw off anything that hinders.

Don’t try to squeeze your family into someone else’s mold. If you’re having an issue and someone’s suggestions help, that’s great, by all means take their advice. If you and your family have worked out some ways of doing things, don’t let another person’s judgment make you feel apologetic about it. Often insecure people feel the need to loudly “teach” their way. Look for the ones who are quietly confident.

In the same way, if you know in your heart that you wouldn’t keep up with a certain way of doing things more than a few days, don’t go there. Personally, I couldn’t stick with a strict by-the-clock schedule, cooking ahead for a month, or homeschooling strictly by the textbook. I know that about myself, and I’m good with it. If these things speak to your heart, you go, girl.

I’m happy to help and encourage along the way. Just don’t watch too closely or put me on a step higher than you. Let’s just walk the road together, sip some coffee, laugh, cry and pray. We’ll follow the only One who knows what He’s doing. He’s glad for us to be who we are and do things the way that fit us.

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I'm a grateful wife & mom of 12 amazing persons. I love to inspire & teach busy women to find beauty in everyday life by caring for themselves, creating comfortable homes with their families and living out ordinary days with grace and gratitude. I'd love to encourage YOU!

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God is not asking you to do it all. Especially not all at once. His yoke is easy and His burden is light. 
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Zoom back in to this moment. Do the next thing, but do it with your whole heart. 
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While you’re doing the thing, stop thinking about all the OTHER things you have to do. The most important things WILL get done, but not all at once.❤️
Pretty college student on her 21st birthday. Our 1 Pretty college student on her 21st birthday. Our 10th child. Straight A student. Absolute delight. And when I found out I was pregnant with her, I couldn’t see how it would work out. All I could see was the current circumstance, the feelings and the fear of the future. Maybe this will encourage you today about a situation in your life. There’s a lot of good and hope in your future.🌱
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A good word for when you’re tempted to be mean t A good word for when you’re tempted to be mean to yourself ❤️
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Have you ever procrastinated about doing something Have you ever procrastinated about doing something, with thoughts of dread and overwhelm?😬And then done the thing,  finding that it was easier and faster to get done than you thought it would be?🥴Yeah, me too. Note to self: The dreading and putting off costs a whole lot more emotional energy than just doing the thing. 😊
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It’s not so much having a lot to do and many res It’s not so much having a lot to do and many responsibilities....it’s over-committing and the energy of “not being enough” that leads to burnout and adrenal fatigue. Your body will cooperate until it doesn’t.  Check in with yourself: What is driving all this doing? What’s behind all the striving, pushing, proving? Sit with that....and then STOP being so hard on yourself, sweetie. Give yourself a break. See where you can simplify. Think about what refreshes you and bring more of that into your life. 🌱
Day 8 of city-water-shortage-after-frozen-pipes ha Day 8 of city-water-shortage-after-frozen-pipes hair. Today they gave the go-ahead for dishwashers and clothes washers, so this girl will be washing her hair without guilt. A week ago it was snowing and -26 windchill, today it’s 71 degrees and sunshine. Don’t tell anyone, but I like variety so Oklahoma weather suits me.😍
Family favorite: No-Bake Cookies! Our recipe is ju Family favorite: No-Bake Cookies! Our recipe is just right, both chocolate-y and peanut butter-y. We like to eat these while they’re still warm and gooey!  Best No-Bake Cookies  1 stick butter  1/2 c. milk  2 c. sugar  1/2 c. cocoa  Mix in a saucepan and bring to a boil, stirring until melted and combined.  Boil 1 1/2 minutes only! Remove from heat and stir in:  1/2 c. peanut butter  1 tsp. vanilla  3 c. oats (either quick oats or old-fashioned)  Drop by spoonfuls on waxed paper.  Let set and enjoy!
Living and loving with your whole heart.💕That s Living and loving with your whole heart.💕That sounds lovely but exhausting. Maybe it’s because we’re zoomed out, looking at the whole day and our whole life. 
.
God is not asking you to do it all. Especially not all at once. His yoke is easy and His burden is light. 
.
Zoom back in to this moment. Do the next thing, but do it with your whole heart. 
.
While you’re doing the thing, stop thinking about all the OTHER things you have to do. The most important things WILL get done, but not all at once.❤️
Pretty college student on her 21st birthday. Our 1 Pretty college student on her 21st birthday. Our 10th child. Straight A student. Absolute delight. And when I found out I was pregnant with her, I couldn’t see how it would work out. All I could see was the current circumstance, the feelings and the fear of the future. Maybe this will encourage you today about a situation in your life. There’s a lot of good and hope in your future.🌱
Snow is rare where I live in Oklahoma. Today it’ Snow is rare where I live in Oklahoma. Today it’s still at the pretty stage, when it covers bare ground and sparkles in the sun. Stray snowflakes are falling like glitter. The melting gray slush is coming, but for today it’s a fairy landscape. Reminds me that we can’t stop time or hold on to life’s moments. We can look for the good right where we are and trust God for the “different” good coming.❄️
A good word for when you’re tempted to be mean t A good word for when you’re tempted to be mean to yourself ❤️
Nobody sittin’ on this garden bench in two degre Nobody sittin’ on this garden bench in two degree weather today!🥶Unusually cold, with rare snow and more to come in Oklahoma. This weather event has disrupted “life as usual.” Prayers for those without power, water or heat right now—rolling power blackouts have begun...
Have you ever procrastinated about doing something Have you ever procrastinated about doing something, with thoughts of dread and overwhelm?😬And then done the thing,  finding that it was easier and faster to get done than you thought it would be?🥴Yeah, me too. Note to self: The dreading and putting off costs a whole lot more emotional energy than just doing the thing. 😊
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